I went back and forth with the idea of getting contacts specifically for my wedding or just wearing my glasses for most of my two year engagement. I’ve been wearing glasses for over 20 years and more than half of that time I’ve been wearing the same style: black thick rimmed glasses. It’s kind of my thing since the early 2000’s and I’m probably never letting it go, to be honest.
I asked Tom at one point what he thought I should do and he suggested that I wear my glasses. It’s what I’m most comfortable in. It’s what I’m seen in the most. And that’s the assurance I needed, even though I was going to do what I wanted no matter what anyway haha.
I want to tell you that if you’re on the fence to just put your damn glasses on and work that aisle. But it can be hard, especially with the way that society has depicted glasses-wearing folks for years (um hello, She’s All That) as unpretty or nerdy (which is absolute garbage). I was worried I wasn’t going to look classy and beautiful enough. I can’t tell you how many times over the years that just taking my glasses off for a formal event was suggested to me, but I can’t do that because I can’t see haha. Glasses don’t hinder your beauty.
Once I went for my hair and makeup trial with one of my great friends, I felt really comfortable with my decision.
My stylist is a good friend of mine, and she kept it simple but elegant. Added some glitter to make my eyes pop, but the glasses were not an issue at all. They didn’t take away from how I saw myself with my dress on in the mirror and that’s what mattered for me.
I later got even more reassurance when I found some wedding photos of my grandparents from the 60s. My grandmother was always unapologetically herself. So I followed her lead and I hoped I made her proud.
I had considered doing false lashes but decided against it. You definitely can do it with glasses, though! I have done it with glasses before. But falsies aren’t something I wear often enough to include in my wedding getup. I didn’t want to do anything too new, honestly. Talk with your hair and makeup people about working your glasses into your look. If they’re pros, they’ll know just the way to do your makeup in order to make your eyes pop. (For instance, not too heavy on the eyeliner).
Above all, don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t wear your glasses if you want to. You can. And if you want to wear contacts, do that, too. It’s your wedding day and you have to do what makes you feel best. I just know for me, I felt so worried about it for a while. I could barely find any glasses-wearing brides on Pinterest and they’re almost never in wedding magazines. I needed some glasses representation, and just so happened to find it in my grandmother’s old bridal photos.
Do your thing, glasses babes! Just make sure you clean ’em.